Pregnant, BirdMites assisted in custody battle, landlord & family ignoring

[Amandasue90]

My fiancé & I began our battle with bird mites in the beginning of the summer after we found out there was a bird nest in the walls of our apartment. We let our landlord know that there was a nest & about a week later, we were noticing the bugs. To this day, he has not only refused to acknowledge the bugs as bird mites, he hasn’t stepped foot into our apartment to see anything & I have reason to believe he paid off an exterminator that I waited a month for to provide me with concrete answers on how to properly treat them. We went through a very rough time for quite a while with these biting us on & off & this has caused me to question their patterns & behaviors. I have experienced enough already to know that the information the internet contains is either insufficient or incorrect entirely. It is clear that some exterminators aren’t even aware entirely of the damage these things are capable of causing. I am due to have my 3rd child on Sept 18th. My other 2 children were taken off of me when their father went to get emergency custody, using the bird mite scenario as an in – claiming that I am “imagining bugs” in my apartment. The bugs were not imagined, needless to say. At this point, we went to our city inspection office to get help & my landlord has done nothing but retaliated since then – knowing this is illegal, I called the cops & they said they couldn’t get involved. My landlord is threatening to evict us on the 31st of the month, as soon as the government orders on restrictions are lifted. I have a lawyer, however, he knows nothing about bird mites either and/or understands the severity of what they have caused in my life. Furthermore, even though I want to move from this apartment (and we are actively searching), the mites + custody issue + pregnancy + landlord ignorance & harassment has caused me to not be able to work all summer leading to financial issues as well. We haven’t found an apartment to move into YET, however, once we do, I am TERRIFIED that I am going to bring these with me. I haven’t gotten bit in a while so I am unsure if they are gone or if this is normal behavior? I see everywhere that they go through phases where they will be inactive for a time?? The nest has definitely not been removed from the wall yet & I believe our landlord is trying to get us out in order to tear down the wall to remove it prior to our court hearing. I made it very apparent to him that the mites have a good chance of remaining until the nest is removed. I have no idea why all of this is happening, but I want to move on once & for all. I don’t know what I should keep and get rid of, what I should do before leaving to ensure that I do not bring them with me to my next apartment, and how I can possibly bounce back from all of the damage these things have caused me. I have never felt so alone in my life. Even my therapist won’t assist because she doesn’t know anything about them – Needless to say, I am looking for a new one. I just need FACTUAL answers to go off of. If I need to throw away all of my furniture, I will do so if it means not bringing these with us. If there is any way to save it though, I cannot afford to miss that opportunity. I could never have imagined this happening when I first discovered these bugs back in May. This is a great way to show how a misjudged issue can RUIN someone’s life & I wouldn’t wish this upon my worst enemy. I just want to get back to enjoying my life & get to the point that I am prepared to have my baby. I am ashamed to say that I am not prepared what so ever, as he is due next month. I conveniently have my custody hearing three days prior to my due date as well. 🙁 Help!!! Anyone who can offer any concrete advice and/or personal experience in any of these areas, I would greatly appreciate it. Thanks!!

[tatiana]

I am really sorry what you have been through while being pregnant. My advice is that you collect samples of the bird mites in a bottle with rubbing alcohol. Contact an entomologist from a local university, send him/ her the specimens and get a statement from this expert. This statement is the confirmation that you are suffering a real infestation that you can use with your landlord. Best of luck, I send you good vibes.

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